Welcome to Episode 46!
Today’s episode is Part 2 of an interview with Gaby and Raj Sundra, authors of Relationship Fun and Games.
We’re joining the interview just as Gaby and Raj are about to share with us their Romp Recap technique for scoring and improving their sex lives.
If you would like to learn more about Gaby and Raj, you can find their website and all their courses at: http://relationshipfunandgames.com/
This week’s podcasts are all about turning a dramatic relationship into a peaceful (and sexy) one. On the magazine, Phil and Maude Mays take it a step further, outlining in detail how they manage to never fight, but instead focus on co-creating solutions, in Our Conflict Free Relationship. The story is the result of an email conversation I’ve been having with Phil and Maude about whether conflict is in fact avoidable in relationships. They say it is, and as you probably know by now, I say it isn’t. Regardless, their article articulates a very interesting process for communication.
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Welcome to Episode 45!
This week’s episodes are about allowing our mess to be our message - a line that our guests this week borrow from a dear friend of theirs. And words that these two truly live by.
I have to admit, that I’m usually a little hesitant to bring experts on the show. I often find myself concerned that they’ll hide behind their expertise rather than use the show as an opportunity for transparency. So far my fears have been unfounded, I’m happy to say, and this week’s couple is no exception. Gaby and Raj Sundra are the authors of Relationship Fun and Games, and they lead couple’s workshops based on the relationship development principles in the book.
What’s fascinating about this couple is the determined way in which they take every single conceivable challenge in their relationship, dissect it to its root elements, and turn it into a tool. It’s an inspiring process to observe, and I think you’re going to love both the honesty, and the tips these two share with us.
Yesterday’s article on the magazine was also about transparency. In Why You Should Tell Your Partner Everything, Ginny McReynolds makes a strong case for full disclosure at the very beginning of a relationship, because let’s face it: How can you love and help someone unless you know the history they’re carrying?
If you would like to learn more about Gaby and Raj, you can find their website and all their courses at: http://relationshipfunandgames.com/
Welcome to Episode 044!
Today’s episode is Part 2 of an interview with Trevor and Megan Blair. If you haven’t heard Part 1 of this interview, you should probably go back and listen to that, as this episode picks up right in the middle of a discussion about intimacy and connection.
To recap, in the last episode Trevor and Megan shared a recent disagreement they’d had, and Megan explained where she thinks she falls on an intimacy spectrum. She also told us what she believes she has to learn from Trevor about intimacy.
We’re picking the interview up at a point where Trevor tells us he is very upset by what Megan has said. We explore the fears driving his reaction, and the fears below those, and so on.
This is our first podcast that explores a couple’s conflict in real time, as it’s happening. Conflict is such an inherent part of intimacy that we have a whole section of our magazine dedicated to fighting: skills to help you navigate the often-turbulent waters of love. Our most recent story describes the single biggest warning sign that your relationship is in trouble . As always, check out our Facebook page for all the latest stories and comments.
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Welcome to Episode 43!
This week’s episodes are about the great gift of romantic partnership: the opportunity to see our identity reflected back at us and to grow as a result. The process isn’t easy, but it’s arguably the whole point.
Our couple this week, Trevor and Megan Blair, are a delight by any measure. They’re smart, successful, attractive—they’re even athletic. They’re well-known around San Diego because of their deep community involvement. And they’re deeply in love, as you’ll see on the show.
And because they’re in love, they sometimes drive each other up the wall, as you’ll also see on the show.
This episode focuses on one issue that keeps manifesting for these two around intimacy and connection: Trevor needs more of it than Megan does. This is a common dynamic and this fascinating and engaging couple tackle it head-on, with real courage. Hats off to them.
Yesterday on the magazine, we posted another story about pursuing and distancing in which Anna Kawar bravely describes how she often became hysterical when her partner distanced himself—which of course just caused him to withdraw further. Read what she learned here and check out our Facebook page for all the latest stories and comments.
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Today’s episode is Part 2 of an interview with Erwan and Alicia Davon, two well-known personal development leaders who are also a couple, and who have developed a program they call The Pleasure Course, in which participants delve into a unique method of personal inquiry and also begin the study of extended orgasm. If you haven’t heard Part 1 of the show, you should probably go back and do that, because it will give you some context for what we’re talking about today.
To recap, in Part 1 Alicia and Erwan shared with us how they met and came together, a bit about their initial conflicts, and Erwan’s first awakening experience in a monastery.
Today, we’re going to cover the topics of extended orgasm and non-ejaculatory sex, and how both of these contribute to the deepening of awareness.
So with that, let’s go to Part 2 of our interview with Alicia and Erwan Davon.
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Welcome to Episode 41!
This week we’re exploring how our sexual needs, and our relationship conflicts, offer us big opportunities to deepen our awareness.
My guests this week are Erwan and Alicia Davon, two well-known personal development leaders. Their work focuses on bringing presence to relationship and sexuality, and they are probably most known for a program called The Pleasure Course, a seminar in which participants delve into a unique method of spiritual/psychological inquiry as well as begin the study of extended orgasm.
Having worked with so many couples in this intimate way Alicia and Erwan have unique insight into what causes awareness to develop, and how sex and our inevitable conflicts with our partners can help us to expand both our personal relationships and our awareness in general. And it doesn’t hurt that Erwan spent a good amount of time in a monastery and Alicia has a master’s in integral psychology.
We’re also publishing two articles in the Magazine this week that are related to issues in the show. They’re called “You’re Just Not That Sexy,” and “Turn Up The Heat.” You can find both of those on our Facebook page or on www.Together.guide.
If you’d like to learn more about Alicia and Erwan, go to: www.erwandavon.com
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Welcome to Episode 40!
Today’s episode is for those couples out there trying to get pregnant and facing all the challenges that entails. You’re not alone. And it’s for the rest of us who want to support our friends but have no idea what they’re going through.
This is part 2 of an interview with Jenny Sauer-Klein and Haley Winter. These two episodes are about very different issues, so they do stand alone. That said, you’ll get a little more context about today’s show if you listen to part one which we posted yesterday.
We’re also posting an article in the magazine on this issue. We had originally intended to post it yesterday, but thought it would be better to release it at the same time as this episode. It’s called “Trying, and Failing, To Conceive” and it’s available at our website: together.guide/magazine, and on our facebook page: facebook.com/togethershow.
If you’d like to learn more about Jenny and her various training programs at her website at http://www.playonpurpose.co/
And you can find Haley’s bodywork practice and methodology at: http://www.thewintermethod.com/
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This is a fun set of interviews because we’ve managed to capture Jenny and Haley in two distinct phases of their relationship. In the first episode, they’re fresh back from their honeymoon and everything is sunshine and rainbows—so much so that they don’t even admit they fight until after we turn off the mics. So I waited several months to interview them again, and then I asked them about that fight they mentioned—and those two bits comprise Episode 1.
In the process of setting up for the second interview, another major issue came up, one that I think is very important, and that I believe many women can identify with. That issue is what we explore in Episode 2. We’re also posting an article in the magazine on this issue, which will go live on Thursday. But I’m not saying any more, because I’m really trying to build some suspense here.
If you’d like to learn more about Jenny and her various training programs at her website at http://www.jennysauerklein.com/
And you can find Haley’s bodywork practice and methodology at: http://www.thewintermethod.com/
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Welcome to Episode 38!
A theme has been developing on the show lately, and that is the importance of context in a relationship. That is to say that when couples create a shared intention or paradigm into which their relationship is growing, the minor challenges don’t grip very hard. When couples have something greater than themselves to reference, they move through conflict more easily and gracefully than otherwise. Bryan and Jennifer, a couple we interviewed several weeks ago - talk about this in the bonus episode that I’ve posted for Patreon subscribers. Kelly and Scott share about how the context of family really saved their marriage, and today’s couple MaryCay and Michael Durant talk about the context of shared values. In this interview we get a fascinating look into how their co-created values weave their way into all their decisions and all of their disputes.
You can find workshops that MaryCay and Michael reference at www.understandmen.com.
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