The thing about the choice to stay or to go in any given relationship, is that we can never know what might have been. There’s no control group to test against for happiness in our life choices. We only know what’s right here, right now.
Our guests this week – Thomas and Lauren – are facing that question of choice. How do you know when it’s right, and how do you know when it’s wrong? In some sense, you can’t know - you just have to take action.
In other news, we're planning a relationship retreat, and we'd love your help getting it right. If you have the time, please fill out a one minute survey to help us make this the best it can be. Here's a link to the survey: http://bit.ly/tgthrwknd
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The music on today’s episode was provided courtesy of Squire Tuck. You can find him at https://soundcloud.com/squier-tuck
Our episode today is about the unpredictable results of difficult conversations. There’s gold in those hills if you have the courage to dig.
Our guests today are avid prospectors, and they have a lot to teach us about the process of emotional inquiry.
If you’d like to learn more about Bob, you can find his website at: http://bobschwenkler.com/
You can find Natalie and her new podcast, Taboo and Turn On at: http://natalievartanian.com/
In other news, we're planning a relationship retreat, and we'd love your help getting it right. If you have the time, please fill out a quick survey to help us make this the best it can be. Here's a link to the survey: http://bit.ly/tgthrwknd
If you like what you've heard on our show, please support us by becoming a subscriber. Members get access to unedited interviews, bonus clips, early access to some of our episodes, and a community of other listeners. You can become a sponsor/subscriber on our website, or at patreon.com/together.
Please don't be shy about letting us know what you think of our program. We love hearing from you. You can email Erik at host@together.guide. Or contact us on our Facebook page, on Twitter, or on Instagram @together_show.
Last week during our interview with Michael and Sara, you may remember they told us about a therapist they had worked with over Skype named Al Turtle. Well I reached out to Al, and today we’ve got him on the show!
It was a long interview. The portion of the conversation we’re playing focuses mostly on a specific debate: is all the inquiry into childhood trauma really necessary, or should we focus instead on behavior? Al’s answer is a good one. Listen in to find out what he says.
You can find Al and all his writings at http://www.alturtle.com/
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Every once in awhile you're going to hear yourself say the words: "I hate you" to the one you love. Not that we're encouraging it, but let's just normalize the fact that sometimes, anger and frustration bubble over into something we're not proud of.
Today's episode is about learning from those feelings, and moving forward. Our guests today, Michael and Sara have a lot to say on the topic, and their story is an inspiring one -- but I'll let them tell it rather than rewrite it here.
You can find the book Michael wrote following their breakup, Left Alone To Learn here: http://amzn.to/2yiEW1c; His book The Love Metric is also available on Amazon, and they're both fantastic.
Here's a link to the article I wrote on this topic of hate (which I mention in the episode): http://together.guide/ever-hate-partner-heres/
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